Powerless Over People, Places, and Things

Such a hard pill to swallow.

For me at least.

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One of my biggest character defects is control.

I try to control everything; people and definite things I have absolutely zero control over.

My life can be absolutely unmanageable and I will still try to control a situation completely out of my control.

Having children is my ultimate test of patience and lack of control.

I can tell my kids until I'm blue in the face to do something or to stop something, but they are their own individuals. They can do whatever it is that they choose and I have zero control over that!

My job as a parent, after all, is not to control my children, it's to guide them and encourage them to do the right thing and be their best selves!

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So what do you do when your lack of control over a person gets you in a tussle?!

You don't do as I do, first and foremost 🫣

You don't give your all arguing until you walk away without saying goodbye, knowing it could very well be the last chance you get to say it.

Instead, you support and love that person despite knowing that they are fucking up and making a really dumb decision.

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Last week, I chose the former.

Am I mad I stood my ground and forced the other individual to think?

No.

Would I go back and change any of it?

Also no.

Do I agree with their decision?

Never!

Do I wish I said goodbye and wasn't too damn stubborn?

Yes.

A hundred times yes

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I was hoping my grilling and thought provoking annihilation of their ideas would render a change of heart.

It didn't.

Instead, I walked away after my husband shushed me and didn't look back.

The person still went through with their dumb plan and now they're gone.

Powerless.

Utterly powerless.

Have you spoke out about something you know is wrong only to ruin a relationship over it?

Tell me all about it in the comments.

That's what I'm here for 😘